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Birthing Trauma: When things don’t go as planned

Updated: May 24, 2023

For some women the birthing experience can be positive, loving, and a reason to celebrate.

Unfortunately, many women experience the birthing experience in a different way. A difficult and more disrupting experience. Especially, when things don’t go as planned.

A difficult birthing story can haunt women for years after their children are born. It can impact confidence, happiness, relationships with their spouse (or others), and even and whether or not they’ll try to conceive again.

Professional counseling holds a safe and non-judgemental space for women to speak their truth and express themselves and their birth narrative.

EMDR is an approach that empowers women to reprocess the traumatic memories from their birthing experiences without having to tell the stories again and again.

In EMDR we work through images and less through “telling the same story”.

Images play an intricate part during the trauma experience since we know the mind may lose access to the positive or helpful memories of the incident that occurred. During the EMDR process it’s not uncommon for clients to seemingly “suddenly remember” the helpful and positive aspects of the story while releasing the darker more traumatic parts;

You don’t realize the weight of walking around with silence around pain and suffering until you’re finally able to release it – so yes it can be tiring to experience the healing offered by EMDR, but isn’t it time to make peace and leave the experience in the past?

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Farah Kurji (BSW, MSW, RCSW, YTT, EMDR CIT) is an advanced trained clinician specializing in trauma, loss, anxiety, depression, and birthing experiences. She includes EMDR & CBT amongst her treatment modalities. Farah also provides clinical consultations and debriefing. You can book with her or her team HERE.

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